Money.

Jill insisted upon being in control of EVERY single aspect of Mike's life. When Mike wanted to retain an attorney for a divorce, he was unable to get the funds needed to retain an attorney because he had no access to his wallet, no Identification, and no checkbook available to him. She kept those things and he had no way of accessing them. As a result, he had to borrow money from his daughter Rayna to retain his attorney. This retainer money has still not been paid back to her.

When Mike tried to follow his attorney's advice and take some (not all) money from their joint account to use during the time of divorce, at his attorney's suggestion, he asked his son, Jake, to be his Power of Attorney. This was difficult to begin with, because we needed to get a Notary Public that was willing to come to his care facility as none were available there. Once we got the POA, Mike had his son, Jake (POA), go to his bank, remove $6,000 and transfer it into an account in ONLY Mike's name. When Jill found this out, she was enraged. She demanded that Dad return the money to the joint account immediately and threatened us (and likely Mike as well) that she would have Jake charged with Felony Theft and Falsification of a Document, of course that didn't bother us since we did things legally 100% of the time. She told us she would no longer be keeping money in the joint account to keep it “safe”. She has several bank accounts for her own money, but always made sure Mike had all of HIS funds in their joint account with her, including the money he got from his inheritances from the death of his parents and brother. Once money from an inheritance is put in a joint account, it is no longer owned by the person who inherited it, but instead becomes a joint asset of the marriage; she ensured that his inheritance immediately became a joint asset.

Jill has sold most of Mike’s personal belongings that are worth any substantial amount. She has sold vehicles, a $20k trailer, a fishing boat, dark house (fish house), etc. This money was NOT put in Mike’s account. Mike believed she kept much of it as cash, making it “disappear”, or perhaps she might also have put the money into her other bank accounts which he didn't have access to.

On the other hand, she insisted Mike sell his own truck for nearly nothing, and buy a very expensive new truck that he didn't want, insisting they make this purchase on the day of Mike’s best friend's funeral– instead of going to the funeral. She was SO angry over the garage he built, but then she went and bought an expensive new truck he didn't even want, and said it was for him. He only rode in “his” new truck a couple times before he passed away.

Jill has stated in texts to us, and in person that Mike “owes her” for the $600 insurance she paid for him each month for awhile, and for “changing his diapers”. She deliberately berates him in front of friends and company, embarrassing him to the point where he no longer allows friends to his farm because of things she’ll say to embarrass him. She’ll discuss “accidents”, diapers, catheters, and other embarrassing topics, and has openly talked with many people about how useless, worthless, lazy and pathetic he is, and how he has “given up” and no longer wants to live and won’t try to get better. None of those things were true if you asked him.