Control Freak.

Jill had already been in disagreement with Mike’s children when Jill brought Mike’s chocolate Labrador Dozer, into Pine City Vet Clinic to be neutered against Mike’s wishes. Jill was met by the veterinary staff who had been alerted to the situation previously, when Mike asked Tracy to call for him, since he had no privacy to call and explain the whole situation. It was noted to contact Mike if his dog was brought in for neutering. When Jill called his children for support in neutering the dog, all four of his children refused to go against Mike’s wishes of what he wanted for his dog. Jill claimed the dog had run away twice in several months and that the dog needed to be neutered and that it was the only option in her eyes. While neutering pets is generally believed to be responsible, sometimes larger dogs, like Dozer, benefit from waiting until 2.5 to 3 years to allow for proper development. Mike’s kids explained to her that Mike’s wishes were important also and that with how little control and happiness he had in his life, it was not something we supported if it was against his wishes and that it was important to honor that; to let him have that bit of control in his life. Jill brought the dog to the vet anyway, where staff stated she was not on the account and that they had received a call of concern regarding Dozer being neutered and they would not perform the surgery on the dog unless Mike stated it was ok to do so. Jill then had the vet call Mike where he stated he did not wish for his dog to be neutered, but that Jill was adamant. The vet needed a yes or no specifically, so reluctantly he gave the vet permission, knowing the hell he would pay for it later if he didn’t. He also had her added to the vet account for future decisions as per Jill's demands. This gross manipulation tactic is what she has been doing for years to him, getting increasingly worse as his health started to fail. rShe must control everything: his money, his home of 47 years, inheritances, family, friends, the direction the tile was to lay in the hallway, and even the choice of his dog being neutered. If he doesn't comply, bad things happen. For years Jill has forced Mike to make choices against his will which benefit her. Jill has been getting legal advice from those she works with, either unknowingly or disregarding her abuse and duress against him to achieve her goals. Jill continued to text and call us after the fact, leaving us more harassing text messages and voicemails about how horrible we are to respect our father’s wishes and hurtful we are to her for not respecting her decision and for embarrassing her at the vet’s office claiming the vet staff were looking at her like she stole the dog. Her manipulation tactics toward us are prominent in her communication with us. Her frequent heavy drinking is also very apparent.

Previously our father told us "Jill did not appreciate company after 5pm" and that we should try to visit him before that time if we were to stop out. Jill states in a voicemail that she has never said that to us, that Mike is the one that is saying that. Our father has never told us times we are allowed to visit him, and has always told us that we are welcome anytime, that his home is our home. In her mind, however, by her telling him to tell us, she can accurately say she didn’t tell us herself that we weren’t allowed out there. One of many tactics to get her way and put the blame on someone else. When looking for abuse signs, she shows very classic methods of an abuser. Mike shows classic signs of Stockholms Syndrome (according to several medical professionals who have helped us along the way). If only we could get a professional to recognize it, and also provide some help for our Dad.